“My  manager  has  done  a  lot  for me,  so  I  can’t  leave the company”, Common Questions and Answers of a Modern Office

MYTH :  My  manager  has  done  a  lot  for  me,  so  I  can’t  leave the company.

REALITY: Your manager may leave the company without thinking about you.

Every  manager  loves to  have  employees  who  are  loyal  to  him. It’s easier  to  manage  them.  So,  how  have  those  employees become  loyal?  The  manager  must  certainly  have  helped  them in  times  of  need.  It  might  have  been  about  hiring  them  when they  were  unemployed  or  saving  them  from  mistakes  that could  have  impacted  their  career:  Or,  it  might  have  been  about assigning  them  responsibilities  which  brought  in  a  positive change.  Even  financial  help  might  have  been  extended;  or  it might  have  been  about  granting  the  requisite  leave  period  for an  employee  to  cope  with  a  personal  crisis.  Whatever  the reason,  the  employee  feels  safe,  secure  and  indebted  to  the manager.  However, the  issue  of  ’emotional  blackmail’  can  also arise,  where  the  manager  reminds  his  trusted  employee  of  all that  he  has  done  for  him;  then  the  employee  might  feel  so indebted  that  he  wouldn’t  be  able  to  tell  his  manager  that he  wants  to  resign.

In  all  this,  it  Is  Important  for  an  employee  to  know that rejecting an excellent job offer because he thinks it might hurt his manager, is being downright foolish. The employee could well be left in the lurch if the manager joins another company. So, if an employee is convinced that he needs to join a different company, he should be able to tell his manager exactly that, despite all that he ‘owes’ him.

WHAT CAN YOU DO AS THE EMPLOYEE? The best way to handle such a situation is to differentiate between personal and official favours. The personal favour that the manager has extended ought to be acknowledged in your personal interactions with him. You should also be able to reciprocate when required. But this personal favour should not be mixed with anything official. The official support that the manager has extended is part of his job; and it is also what was best for the company. You should be thankful to the manager for all his help, but that doesn’t mean you have signed a contract to work with him for life.

WHAT CAN  YOU  DO  AS  THE  MANAGER?  If  you  are  genuinely  interested in  the  well-being  of  an   employee  who  wants  to  leave)  then  you will  be  supportive  of  the  decision  and  even  provide  some valuable  opinions  on  the  job  offer  he  has  received.

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